You have heard me say that motivation is bullshit.
And to be honest, for the most part thatโs true. It is not a reliable source for long term success.
That said, if we dive deeper into different types of motivation, youโll see where the problem actually is.
Controlled motivation is where you probably are right now (or the last time you tried to lose fat). You are doing it for external purposes;
-๐๐ซ๐ฒ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ ๐ฉ๐๐จ๐ฉ๐ฅ๐
-๐๐ก๐๐ซ๐โ๐ฌ ๐ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐๐ข๐๐ฅ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ง๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ฎ๐ฉ
-๐๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐จ๐จ๐ ๐๐ฌ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐ฐ๐๐ซ๐ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐๐ฑ๐๐ซ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐ข๐ง๐
-๐๐ซ๐๐ข๐ง๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎโ๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ ๐ฎ๐ข๐ฅ๐ญ๐ฒ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ง๐ฑ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐จ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฌ๐
If any of these sound familiar, they are likely the reason for your lack of motivation. Youโre looking for it in the wrong places.
Placing your desires in the hands of other people and situations makes it easier to give up when it gets tough or the compliments arenโt rolling in as much.
Instead, the goal is to look for autonomous motivation, which really isnโt your typical motivation at all.
Autonomous motivation is when youโre driven by the pure satisfaction of the activity regardless of any outside factors that may arise. These include:
-๐๐ข๐ฆ๐ข๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐๐๐ญ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐ฌ๐ญ ๐ข๐ง ๐๐ง ๐๐ฑ๐๐ซ๐๐ข๐ฌ๐
-๐๐ซ๐๐ข๐ง ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ค๐ง๐จ๐ฐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ฅ๐ฅ ๐ข๐ฆ๐ฉ๐ซ๐จ๐ฏ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฆ๐จ๐จ๐
-๐๐๐ค๐ ๐ญ๐ก๐ ๐ ๐จ๐๐ฅ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐จ ๐ฌ๐จ๐ฆ๐๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐ ๐๐ฏ๐๐ซ๐ฒ ๐๐๐ฒ ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ฌ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ข๐ฌ๐ก ๐๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐ข๐ซ๐๐ ๐ข๐ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐๐จ๐ง’๐ญ
-๐๐ข๐ ๐ง ๐ฎ๐ฉ ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ ๐ซ๐๐๐ ๐จ๐ซ ๐๐จ๐ฆ๐ฉ๐๐ญ๐ข๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐๐๐๐๐ฎ๐ฌ๐ ๐ข๐ญ ๐ ๐ข๐ฏ๐๐ฌ ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ ๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ซ๐ฌ๐จ๐ง๐๐ฅ ๐ ๐จ๐๐ฅ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ฅ๐ข๐ ๐ง๐ฌ ๐ฐ๐ข๐ญ๐ก ๐ฒ๐จ๐ฎ๐ซ ๐ฏ๐๐ฅ๐ฎ๐๐ฌ
By focusing on the internal benefits of exercise and physical activity, you have a deeper connection to the motivation of it all and are much more likely to follow through.
An exercise feelings journal or a self reflection questionnaire can really help shape your thoughts around exercise and patterns in your life.
Each week my clients are filling out check-in forms to reflect on how they think theyโre doing, how they are feeling, where they can improve – as well as various biomarkers (sleep quality, energy levels, mood, stress, performance) to ensure they are in a good headspace to train.
What I want you to do for this week: think of the REAL reasons why you want to keep training. Are they for you? Are they for someone else?
Write your thoughts down and get in touch with yourself again. Now is arguably one of the best times to do so.
If you can separate what you want for yourself and what you expect from others, it will make your fitness journey a hell of a lot easier – and way more enjoyable.